We are defined, said Dr. Wayne Dyer, by the agreements we have made with ourselves about what is possible. And unfortunately our PCC’s (premature cognitive commitments) often allow beliefs to slip in that become our reality, no matter how illogical or unrealistic. Then these limiting beliefs stop us from being or having what we want.
So how do we stay alert to beliefs that sabotage our confidence and sidetrack our successes?
1. Question beliefs and don’t take either your or someone else’s interpretation of reality as necessarily true. Example: You don’t apply for a job opportunity, or speak up in a meeting, or ask for the promotion/raise, all because on some level you feel you aren’t as capable or someone tells you not to bother, it won’t do any good. Examine your beliefs. The brain distorts reality all the time and our job is to be aware of it and argue in favor of what we want: Why can’t I get that promotion? Why shouldn’t I be the one for the project? Go back to when you felt successful and savor that feeling.
2. Play your video each and every day. In reprogramming how we think and what we attract, we need to set ourselves up for success. Our brains are programmed to continually produce simulations of negative mini-movie clips, reinforcing negativity. So if we screwed up on a major report, the brain isn’t going to let us forget it unless we counter with our own positive images. As I’ve mentioned before, Olympic gold medalist Michael Phelps became--according to his coach Bob Bowman-- the mentally toughest swimmer in the pool because he conditioned himself to succeed by seeing the end result the way he wanted…swimming to win each and every time he got into the pool.
3. Imagine how great you’ll feel when you stop pretending to be limited. Einstein said imagination is more important than knowledge, and when we link up an emotion to a belief, we make it much stronger. In our videos it’s important to feel the success instead of merely think about it. The rules that are in place in your life are rules you’ve created. Want to feel more confident? Ask yourself what belief is getting in the way. Remember, it’s just a belief, something you’ve thought about over and over until it had credibility, became reality. Who created that belief? When we can ferret out the voice/mentality behind the belief, then we can begin to change it.
4. The past doesn’t equal the present or the future. Every day when we acquire different information it will enable us to create different results. The person you were when you got out of bed this morning is not necessarily the same person you’ll be when you go to bed tonight (what an exciting thought). One thought, one idea, can change how you think and therefore change your behavior.
5. Pick one thing to focus on and watch the results. Every thought matters. The brain’s ability to learn and change itself is called neuroplasticity, and as we focus our thoughts, enabling neurons to fire together by strengthening their existing synapses and forming new ones that “wire” together, our thoughts get stronger. Pick a belief and focus on that for a week, with feeling. Notice if you hear an internal argument on what you can and can’t do; that’s not reality it’s simply an old thought that isn’t happy about getting rooted out. Be tenacious; you have control over your thoughts.
When we’re aware of the sneaky PCC’s that limit our abilities, and take steps to change them, then we’re free to have more of what we want in life. The great news, this is not rocket science, simply an awareness of changing a habitual way of thinking to make room for progress!
“Whatever you're thinking about is literally like planning a future event. When you're worrying, you are planning. When you're appreciating you are planning...What are you planning?”
---Abraham (Esther and Jerry Hicks)