Have you noticed if people lack confidence, they’re apt to start a conversation with a qualifier: “I’m not sure this is the right time to bring this up…” Or, “I don’t know if this is what you meant…” What does it say loudly and clearly? That the person talking has doubts about what is being said.
And where do our self-doubts come from? The conversations we’re having with ourselves most of the day.
Michael Singer in his New York Times best seller, The Untethered Soul, asks us to imagine what would happen if that annoying little voice in our head—the one that creates the doubt—was actually a person sitting next to you in your office all day criticizing everything you did. How long would you put up with it? And Joe Dispenza in his book, Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself, gives us a template on changing the internal dialogue that gets in the way of our success.
We are the most important person we’ll talk to all day, and yet it’s easy to be the most negative person we’ll have a conversation with as well. Pay attention to what you’re saying, argue against your limitations and be the voice of encouragement instead. It’s time we all became our own cheerleaders.
