You are not what you did on your worst day, but an accumulation of all you’ve done in life. When I heard that statement recently it made me think of how often we focus on all the things we’ve done that haven’t worked out the way we wanted. We tend to keep auto correcting our subconscious, playing a loop of mistakes and regrets. In order to set ourselves up for success it’s time to look at what we’re still holding onto, forgive ourselves for not being perfect, and focus on what we want to accomplish and achieve instead of what we don’t want or don’t feel we deserve.
I’ve sometimes coached people who, for whatever reason, didn’t think they deserved their success or money or happiness. And so they sabotaged success. Obviously until we check out what we’re really feeling, dig around to find out what’s behind it and then choose to let it go (my mantra, misery is optional, so is joy) it’s not possible to own our success.
And naturally we can’t help others until we demonstrate our own brilliance. We can’t, for instance, help someone who has low self-esteem by feeling inadequate, but by being the role model for believing in our own worth. Joy and happiness is the best role model to offer.
There are always reasons to feel frustrated and angry, but to use them as excuses is missing the point. We can instead focus on what we’ve gotten right and how we can continue to model that for everyone around us. And then we’re setting ourselves up with a success we own and can never be taken away. And a success others will definitely want to emulate.
